Can Dating Go Back to “Normal” Yet? – If Not, What Are the New Dating Rules?

in Lifestyle · 23-12-2020 10:54:00 · 1 Comments

If you are single and not asexual, this last year may not have been very a frisky one. In fact, for many if not most, it was more like a full-blown drought. Millions around the world are hoping to hop back on the saddle, enjoy a roll in the hay, become intimate with someone new…or – in all sincerity – simply dress up like adults, go out somewhere nice and chat with an interesting person; with or without strings attached. If you miss dating, it’s more than safe to say you’re not alone.

So, here’s the good news: There are vaccine lights at the end of this very long Covid tunnel and a new administration in Washington might possibly be more efficient at overall-all damage control and recovery. The bad news? It’s going to be a while before it’s genuinely safe to get back to dating like we used to in the “good old days.” And in this meantime, many have questions. What are the rules for dating in this almost post-pandemic era?

Not long ago, National Public Radio (NPR) readers sent in some great inquiries related to relationships, sex and dating in this still-viral world. One wannabe chef – for whom cooking was evidentially his main seduction technique – was sick of outdoor dining and wanted to know when he could show-off his skills in an inside kitchen again. Plenty of folks wanted to know if some sort of proof of a Covid test would be a good idea. And at least one lonely or horny individual asked if sex while wearing a mask was “a thing”? Um…not that we know of – not that there’s anything wrong with that.

All joking aside, there are real debates running through people’s heads as they prepare for dating re-entry. And, considering that we live in the 21st century, a whole lot of us are going to be returning to the world of dating via dating apps or sites. It would be nice if there was some magic app assessed potential partners based on how serious they took their own and others’ health and safety; but until such a tool is developed, experts on health and relationships say we will need to work out new ways to ford the fjords of intimacy while staying Covid-free.

The most common advice from such sages isn’t actually all that different from what they were espousing before the plague arrived: communication is vital and being open and honest is the only way to play. Does this mean we’re going to need to have what some are calling, “The Covid Talk”? Yes. Sorry. But it’s not that bad. For example, start with the basics: Do you believe Covid is real, or a hoax perpetuated by reptilian aliens in league with bigfoot and the Communist Party of China? Again, we jest, but if your potential dating partner thinks this virus – which has infected millions and killed far too many – is a joke, pull the ejection seat cord immediately. Moving forward there are plenty of other things that might be helpful to know: “Does your job require you to be around people in close proximity, and if so, what safety measures have you adopted?” “Have you cut way back on restaurants or house parties and the like?”

It boils down to this: we’ve always had to consider a potential partner’s hobbies, politics and common interests before deciding if they’re a good match. Now, there’s just one more factor to factor in – your potential partner's approach to pandemic safety. Whether you choose from free dating sites or those you have to pay for, be clear during any online chats about what you consider to be reasonable Covid safety protocols. It might be a tad embarrassing to talk about viruses when you’d rather be e-wooing someone, but minor embarrassment beats getting sick.

Relationships, human contact, love, romance and yes, sex, are bona fide human needs and you have no reason to feel ashamed for wanting them. The thing is, pre-plague, we could all afford to be a bit less selective and – if we’re honest – we’d sometimes choose someone because they were human and available – again, not that there’s anything inherently wrong with that. But these days we’ve all got to be significantly more selective as, sadly, it could literally be a matter of life and death.

Ask the questions you want to ask. Listen to that warning voice in your head – even if the person is a “10.” Be okay with saying no. Dating apps and or dating websites have sped up the “introduction” phase of courtship, and that was fine and fun while it lasted. Now, however, it’s time to utilize the same tech to get to know the person a bit better before going on a real date or hooking up. In essence, this entire article could be summed up in three verbs: talk, listen, and feel.

The good times are coming back soon – but improving your talking, listening and feeling skills is only a going to make you a better catch and catcher when that dating light finally turns fully green.



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Comments:

I like to challenge this writers view about Male and female dating. It sounds so good and free spirited like there is NO consequences to ones behavior dealing with matters of heart and physical sexual values between males and females. With this writers view Hedonism is the foundation of relationship for 50 years with all the changes physically that affect attitudes in dealing with LIFE.

Males have one view and females have another view. Reality for long term does A MALE want family with his children he teaches to live. Does a Women want children and family for 50 years of memories. Point of view the mother is foundation of home and for male finding a women that wants to be with male for long time. The more males a female have been with the harder for her to trust her self and a males. The more females a man been with base on hedonism he cannot be with one women. USA had hedonist revolution abandon Christianity values to find a partner you can trust working together with children and for one own spirit reality evolution. In 1990s the sexual transmitted disease the type you have to deal with rest of your life was epidemic levels. High price for Hedonism beliefs. Back in 1950s there was very few venereal diseases and could be fixed. Now in USA. Hedonism has high price for both males and females and females pay HIGH price emotionally therefore physical health. Dating founded on Hedonism like in the movies shows one side but not Consequence. Serpent of deception is to make you think hedonism will take your pain away of desires feelings. Be aware secular ideas. NO God spirit between man and women it is flesh. Women if you want Family in your life picking a MAN to lead that family.You are foundation

By Scott M. Bartley from USA on 01-01-2021 11:25
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