Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It's a feeling of value and appreciation for ourselves, which grows from actions which support our physical, emotional and spiritual growth.

Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world and the more we value ourselves and feel ourselves worthy, the more our outer world will reflect this back to us in what shows up in our reality.

A lack of self-love can also be the biggest block to receiving everything that we are consciously trying to create. This is where we can unknowingly hold ourselves back. After all, we cannot receive that which we don't feel deserving to accept.

Learning to love ourselves is a game-changer.

When we have a strong sense of self-worth we understand that sometimes putting ourselves first is not selfish, but necessary, and setting healthy boundaries can be essential to developing loving and respectful relationships with others. Taking the time we need each day for ourselves is an important element of self-love ~ after all we cannot give to others what we do not have ourselves.

So which crystals can we use to help us learn to love and accept ourselves just the way we are?


The unconditional loving energy of kunzite can assist us in developing love, compassion and kindness for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves becomes easier when our hearts are open and this gentle crystal will help us to feel compassion and forgiveness for ourselves.


For those who tend to sacrifice our own needs for that of others, rhodochrosite can help to strengthen our understanding that our needs are equally as important. This crystal is also supportive for those times when past traumas may cause us to doubt and question ourselves.

Tiger's Eye

If setting boundaries is a perpetual struggle then tiger's eye can give us the inner strength necessary for establishing healthy boundaries with others. The energy of this crystal can also really help to strengthen our sense of self-worth and self-belief.

All three of these crystals can be combined with my number one recommendation for developing self-love: rose quartz…

Rose quartz

With her soothing and comforting energy, rose quartz is like a cuddle in a stone. She's the ultimate stone of love - for ourselves, for others, for the universe.

Many people know rose quartz as the stone of love - and she is. But please don't mistake her gentleness for weakness. As she's so abundantly available, this feminine energy crystal is often under-appreciated for the powerful gift of love that she is.

Rose quartz is frequently a 'gateway crystal' into the Mineral Kingdom. She's often the first crystal that we are drawn to, and for good reason. We sense her loving vibration and understand at soul level that she can help us with emotional healing and love for ourselves.

And there are so many ways we can receive her loving frequency:

● Wearing or carrying her gently opens our heart to both receive and give love.

● Meditating with rose quartz on our heart centre in the morning makes us feel blissfully calm, and this loving vibration can be felt in our energetic field by others throughout the day.

● Drinking rose quartz water not only brings her gorgeous, loving vibration directly into our energetic field, it's amazing for cell renewal too.

● Taking a bath with her can help us to release any negative thoughts and worries from the day, allowing us to relax and sleep more soundly.

● Sleeping with her under our pillow can assist us in drifting off into sleep more peacefully.

Jade Marsh is a Crystal Healer, Writer and Teacher who runs online crystal courses and workshops from her home on the island of Ibiza.

She is also a Consciousness Coach and includes crystals in her coaching programmes, encouraging new clients to harness the power of crystals in the conscious creation process.

Her signature methodology incorporates coaching, intuitive guidance, EFT tapping, subconscious reprogramming, and a little crystal magic!

She studied at The British Academy of Crystal Healing and holds an advanced diploma in The Art of Crystal Healing.